Alan Moher, 57, ‘smiled’ as he was jailed for 18 months today after admitting controlling and coercive behavior by Caroline Moher. The woman has filed a private lawsuit against her husband after suffering threats and abuse for five years.
A court heard Moher refuse to grant his wife a “Get”, a document that formally recognizes the end of a marriage in the Orthodox Jewish faith.
Failure to issue a “Get” means Mrs. Moher is unable to remarry, have more children or enter into a relationship with another man. While the couple divorced in civil court in 2019, they are not considered divorced under Jewish law.
Under Jewish law, only husbands can accept a “Get” and Moher used his power to prevent the dissolution of the couple’s religious marriage, which caused his partner emotional and psychological distress.
His first threat – days after receiving notification that his wife wanted a divorce in January 2016 – was: “You’re not getting a Get, you’ll be one of those women in chains.”
Over the next five years, Ms. Moher attempted suicide, My London reports.
After the attempt, Mr Moher texted his wife saying, “What color do you want on your headstone?”
But Moher was eventually charged after a private prosecution and, although he initially denied the charge, he pleaded guilty and was jailed at Southwark Crown Court today.
He had also learned that on May 9, 2019, while Mr. and Mrs. Moher were attending proceedings in the Court of Appeal, Moher had approached Mrs. Moher during a break in the proceedings and told her, “You can get all the money but I swear on [their daughter’s] life, you’ll never get the Get from me.”
In another instance, Moher deliberately drove his car on the wrong side of the road towards Ms Moher as she was driving down a road in Salford, Greater Manchester, before swerving out of the way mockingly she.
When Moher was informed that Mrs. Moher had started divorce proceedings, Moher told his wife to “fuck off, curl up and die”, the next day Mr. Moher put his hands around her throat, spat and screamed in his face and made a threat to his life.
At sentencing, Judge Hiddleston said: “Your wife sought to get away from you to start a new life and therefore you sought to make it as difficult and painful as possible.”
The judge accepted the guilty plea and said it reduced what would have been a 21 month sentence to 18 months. Moher was also required by the court to contribute £11,000 towards legal costs.
Moher showed no emotion when the verdict was read aloud and was quickly taken into custody. Ms Moher broke down in tears in court.
In a victim impact statement read by the prosecutor, she said: “I have very little confidence and I feel totally destroyed as a person, because of the way Alti [her husband] treat me. Alti controlled me in all aspects of my life with him. I felt that he always behaved like my director and I was the student. He always seemed to put the fear of God in me. He totally manipulated me and molded me into who he wanted me to be.
“Imagine being put in a straitjacket, gagged, your hands and feet bound. You are blindfolded. You are in a cold, dark place. Your only weapon is that you can hear. You depend on your captor to put you This is how I always feel “married” to Alti/Alan.
“I have lived with so much stress, grief, responsibility, pain, upset, fear, panic, depression, loneliness, abandonment, disappointment, hopelessness and suicidal thoughts, that I I’m not sure how I’m able to stand tall with my head held high The feeling of being reclusive and introverted has set in. I wear a cap and pull up my collar to bite into kosher stores, hoping no one recognizes me, cause i’m incognito i then dash for my car, jump in and lock the doors right away lest atli is still hiding somewhere in a dark place, waiting to jump on me and kill me.And then I’m grateful to be able to go home to my safe place…
“I am always a positive person, able to find solutions, but the situation I find myself in is not one that I can find a solution to, because my life is in the hands of Atli, my freedom is in his hands and he knows it, and relishes the fact that only he can set me free, but won’t. He’s a sadistic man and he’s always enjoyed seeing me suffer throughout our marriage. He appreciates that now He always liked to see me begging him to put money in my account, so I wouldn’t be overdrawn in my bank account. I feel like I have a noose around my neck, a ball and chain. at my feet, still being married to him halakhically. The problem is still I will never be able to forget that I am related to this monster. I don’t think I could ever trust another man, because of distrust and abuse I had from Alti.
Moher, of Salford, is a man of good character, the court was told.
Jeffery Israel, defending, said: “My client is a 57-year-old man and aside from one public order incident, I would ask the court to treat him as a man of good character.”
He argued that Mr Moher’s autism prevented him from showing his emotions.
“The overall score for being autistic is 65, he got 199. It really gives Your Honor a good understanding of Mr. Moher’s personality and the difficulties he faces. He has pleaded guilty and that really should to be worth.”